During The Know Show yesterday, I talked about the deeper lesson of this whole Djokovic story, and it’s got nothing to do with tennis! Or even him. Instead, it’s more about how we speak to each other and get emotionally involved in stories – especially when famous people are in the mix.
For a couple of weeks now, this story has been in headlines around the world, it’s still not over (his lawyers are fighting the latest visa cancellation), and we still don’t really know the truth. Regardless, passions have been very high.
For Melbournians, who’ve suffered the longest lockdowns in the world, they are angry. They have collectively come together to do their part in fighting the pandemic, and as a sport’s loving city, this whole saga is infuriating. Why does he get special treatment when they’ve suffered so much? Of course, not all Melbournians will think this way.
And then we have the shambolic Australian Government, led by ScoMo, and well, they haven’t exactly been experiencing their finest hour by a long shot – not just with Djokovic, but with everything they’re doing. Lot’s on that below.
We also have reports about Australia’s Border Force, and if you’ve ever visited Australia, you know this is a serious bunch of people. You do not mess with Australia’s Border Force.
Of course, Djokovic’s fans are screaming their outrage, his fellow Serbians too, not to forget his loyal family speaking up on his behalf as well.
It’s a story of the haves and have nots getting special treatment, in a world sick and tired of inequality.
And let’s not forget Djokovic’s contribution to the whole story, by talking about his Covid diagnosis and the fact he broke quarantine – on social media.
He’s also an anti-vaxxer, which isn’t serving him well in many people’s eyes. For others, it makes him a legend.
Yes, it’s a story that has captivated the world.
But this is what I want to share with you, as a lesson going into 2022. This story is a perfect example of how people emotionally react to stories – whichever ‘side’ you’re on. When you are emotionally connected to a story, or a ‘side’ of a story, you can never stand back and look at it objectively.
So the first sign of losing your objectivity is when you experience strong emotions linked to whatever story is getting you all riled up!
The other big part is, how we’re speaking to each other about it. Here’s a scenario playing out around the world on social media.
You’re against him being in Australia and you share your opinions on Facebook.
One of your mates or a family member disagrees with you and they’re not nice about it.
You shoot back, straight from the hip.
Before you know it, everyone is screaming and no one is listening.
No winners in this mix.
Honestly, watching this play out for this story, and for every other story that generates intense emotions, is exhausting and it’s a huge challenge we face in this world.
I often see things I disagree with. If there’s an opportunity to gently share an opposing view, without creating anger, I might do it. However, if I know the person isn’t open to even a gentle touch, I won’t. No point.
Most comments and posts I disagree with, I just move on. Not everything is for everyone, and honestly, in a story like this, where none of us really know the whole truth, it’s just not worth getting involved in heated arguments, because all it does it piss you off and leave you feeling angry. It doesn’t change a single thing, so why do we continue to do it?
Let me be clear, this is not criticism towards anyone sharing their opinions on this story. I appreciate the passion people have for tennis, but I just wanted to show it as an example of how we are constantly allowing ourselves to get caught up in rage, and really, what’s the point? It’s tearing us all apart – this rage.
Not to forget, it’s also a great example of how we are so distracted by stories in the media, especially when famous people are involved.
In fact, go and check out Jennifer Aniston’s latest post on Instagram. She’s posted a picture with humid hair. I like Jennifer Aniston, she’s great, however at time of writing, her photos had 3.2 million likes and 23,949 comments. I wish the World Wildlife Foundation got that many likes and comments on their posts.
‘Don’t Look Up’ got a lot right. We’re so distracted we forget to pay attention to what’s important. But that’s why I’m here – check out the environment section below, as well as the Covid and global politics section too. Definitely more important stuff to be focused on, yes?
Top tips for 2022 – let’s get the rage out of our world
- Check your emotions about a story – if they are strong, try standing back from it
- When you share your opinion (which you have the right to do) try to present it objectively
- Try not to engage in vicious arguments, especially with people you like and love – definitely take it off-line if it means a lot to you
- If you don’t know the person, ignore them, hide their comment or block the post – zero point arguing with someone you don’t know, because you don’t understand where they get their knowledge from and you don’t understand their emotional baseline
- If you disagree with someone who is sharing an opinion, just move past it. No point commenting. They’re clear in how they feel and your comment won’t change a thing
- If you need to comment, try and do it gently, to show them another way
- If you want to keep raging, regardless of what I’m saying here, you do you! I’m talking to people sick and tired of the anger
Like I said, I have no opinion on this and if you want to share anything about Djokovic because of what I’ve written, please don’t waste your time. What I DO care about is helping people see where our divisions are taking us, and stories like this are all about magnifying divisions in our societies.
We need to heal and we need to come together to overcome the enormous challenges we face as a global community. All of us, or as many as possible! Agree?
Right, let’s get into the important stuff.
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Raina MacIntyre – Why Covid-19 will never become endemic tks Phillipa Edwards
5 reasons you should not deliberately catch Omicron to ‘get it over with’ tks Angela Frechette
Omicron, Australia & the incompetence of leadership | Auto Expert John Cadogan – tks Warwick Merry
Right-wing politics is cancerous to democracy, society, and human life tks Phillipa Edwards
Business and technology
Belt & Road encircles Latin America and the Caribbean tks Richard Turrin
The “new normal” work culture may have evolved for the better tks Maeve Henry
Channel7 Wild Feed Mike Amor Rebecca madden on Novak Djokovic – tks Phillipa Edwards
Social issues and humanity
Awe: The ‘little earthquake’ that could free your mind tks Tim Hamons
Life after a great leap: lessons from people who dropped everything in search of happiness tks James Taylor, great read
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CEOs Give Advice To Millennials About Saving Money – note it’s The Onion.
Australian Lamb : The Lost Country of the Pacific
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